Comments on: How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/ Simple Productivity Fri, 16 Oct 2009 00:14:22 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: Anger Management Blog » Blog Archive » Anger management - Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination. http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-29581 Anger Management Blog » Blog Archive » Anger management - Use imagery; visualize a relaxing experience, from either your memory or your imagination. Wed, 05 Mar 2008 11:30:47 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-29581 [...] How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits Feeling your feelings without being your feelings. [...] [...] How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits Feeling your feelings without being your feelings. [...]

]]> By: Anger Management Blog » Blog Archive » The Anger Busting Workbook (Anger management) http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-28978 Anger Management Blog » Blog Archive » The Anger Busting Workbook (Anger management) Mon, 03 Mar 2008 12:17:24 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-28978 [...] How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits Feeling your feelings without being your feelings. [...] [...] How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits Feeling your feelings without being your feelings. [...]

]]> By: Anger Management Blog » Blog Archive » How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits (Anger management) http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-28332 Anger Management Blog » Blog Archive » How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits (Anger management) Thu, 28 Feb 2008 08:41:34 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-28332 [...] How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits Feeling your feelings without being your feelings. [...] [...] How to Let It Be’ When You’re Upset | zen habits Feeling your feelings without being your feelings. [...]

]]> By: Mel http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-24755 Mel Thu, 24 Jan 2008 18:07:17 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-24755 Blessed be - I was in meditation yesterday and suddenly I had a major insight that to 'let go' isn't necessarily the best thing to do - sometimes it is too diffcult and can perhaps do too much damage than good. In fact, I realised that to let things be and to be at peace with things is far more healing and productive. I realised that in trying to let go of someone or some emotion however far in the past, in one way, was denying my past and who I was and therefore who i am now. Once I realised this I felt more whole and more at one with myself. It felt that by trying to cut cords I was also trying to cut off a part of myself and I found this even more distressing than the original painful emotion. I understand that advising people to let go is very much an 'in thing' at the moment - I have done it myself - but now I want to let things be - at peace and at one - and want to spread this message too. It is lovely to hear someone else coming to this place. Blessed be – I was in meditation yesterday and suddenly I had a major insight that to ‘let go’ isn’t necessarily the best thing to do – sometimes it is too diffcult and can perhaps do too much damage than good. In fact, I realised that to let things be and to be at peace with things is far more healing and productive. I realised that in trying to let go of someone or some emotion however far in the past, in one way, was denying my past and who I was and therefore who i am now. Once I realised this I felt more whole and more at one with myself. It felt that by trying to cut cords I was also trying to cut off a part of myself and I found this even more distressing than the original painful emotion. I understand that advising people to let go is very much an ‘in thing’ at the moment – I have done it myself – but now I want to let things be – at peace and at one – and want to spread this message too. It is lovely to hear someone else coming to this place.

]]> By: charlie xiao http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-21625 charlie xiao Thu, 20 Dec 2007 13:55:47 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-21625 thank you for such good advices. I have read a practical way to change state effectively from <a href="http://www.52success.net/index.php/emotion-management-blog/Easy-steps-to-control-your-temper.html" rel="nofollow">easy steps to control temper</a> it says five steps: A) Do you want to change or must change? B) What is the detail information when you cannot control your temper? Your look, your tone, the speed of words, your action, your breath. C) If you can control your temper, what kind of perfect result do you want to get? Just like step B, write down the detail information. D) To achieve such a result, how can you change the bad situation to a risible situation? for example, you can add strange music or strange sound to your imagination. E) Repeat step c) to d) until you feel better. thank you for such good advices. I have read a practical way to change state effectively from easy steps to control temper
it says five steps:
A) Do you want to change or must change?

B) What is the detail information when you cannot control your temper? Your look, your tone, the speed of words, your action, your breath.

C) If you can control your temper, what kind of perfect result do you want to get? Just like step B, write down the detail information.

D) To achieve such a result, how can you change the bad situation to a risible situation? for example, you can add strange music or strange sound to your imagination.

E) Repeat step c) to d) until you feel better.

]]> By: 5 ways to feel good again « Simplyfuzz’s Weblog http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-20139 5 ways to feel good again « Simplyfuzz’s Weblog Mon, 03 Dec 2007 17:12:07 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-20139 [...] the person, or even talk to them, just do what you can to get the angry feelings out. Check out this article by Agent Sully on Zen habits to learn how to let things be when you are upset. Or these 9 Steps to [...] [...] the person, or even talk to them, just do what you can to get the angry feelings out. Check out this article by Agent Sully on Zen habits to learn how to let things be when you are upset. Or these 9 Steps to [...]

]]> By: Barbara James http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-17752 Barbara James Thu, 08 Nov 2007 21:31:42 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-17752 I put your 'Guide to Being Present' up on my cork board, where I can see it from my desk. Even small upsets can take away the day before I know it. My favorite: "I’m not running from this and I’m also not attached to it." This feels very strong to me. I put your ‘Guide to Being Present’ up on my cork board, where I can see it from my desk. Even small upsets can take away the day before I know it.
My favorite: “I’m not running from this and I’m also not attached to it.” This feels very strong to me.

]]> By: How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-17641 How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset Thu, 08 Nov 2007 01:54:56 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-17641 [...] How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset [...] [...] How to ‘Let It Be’ When You’re Upset [...]

]]> By: sam http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-16953 sam Sun, 04 Nov 2007 10:27:54 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-16953 Some times when emotions are overwhelming its just helpful to let it go. Actively reasoning and self talk can really help you heal quicker. I liked your post very much. Some times when emotions are overwhelming its just helpful to let it go. Actively reasoning and self talk can really help you heal quicker. I liked your post very much.

]]> By: The Super Story Answer Is: Enjoy the Game http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-16837 The Super Story Answer Is: Enjoy the Game Fri, 02 Nov 2007 15:09:04 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/how-to-let-it-be-when-youre-upset/#comment-16837 [...] 4. Work. I will work on my top priorities according to the planned time frames until my work time is up. 5. Acceptance. I will accept that I may only get 1 or 2 big things done in any given day. I might need to journal about this to help myself accept it. I think I’ll also try letting it be vs. letting it go. [...] [...] 4. Work. I will work on my top priorities according to the planned time frames until my work time is up. 5. Acceptance. I will accept that I may only get 1 or 2 big things done in any given day. I might need to journal about this to help myself accept it. I think I’ll also try letting it be vs. letting it go. [...]

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