Comments on: Removing Negative Thought: Tips To Overcome and Step Outside of Your Comfort Zone http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/ Simple Productivity Sun, 07 Mar 2010 05:06:07 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: ide menulis http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-52087 ide menulis Thu, 20 Nov 2008 15:14:50 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-52087 Very good tips. I love all of your articles Very good tips. I love all of your articles

]]> By: How to Overcome Doubt: Business Blog Tips by Visionary Blogging | Visionary Blogging - A New Look at Blog Improvement http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-39444 How to Overcome Doubt: Business Blog Tips by Visionary Blogging | Visionary Blogging - A New Look at Blog Improvement Tue, 01 Jul 2008 14:06:43 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-39444 [...] Conquering doubt is the key to overcome negative thinking. [...] [...] Conquering doubt is the key to overcome negative thinking. [...]

]]> By: Carlos http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-17773 Carlos Fri, 09 Nov 2007 02:59:21 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-17773 I'm printing your list and placing it on my wall so that every time A negative thought comes wondering I can just glance at one item on the list and feel better. Very nice post. I’m printing your list and placing it on my wall so that every time A negative thought comes wondering I can just glance at one item on the list and feel better.

Very nice post.

]]> By: Mark http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-17651 Mark Thu, 08 Nov 2007 03:17:11 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-17651 Greetings Leo ~ Not sure if people are still getting the comments on this post but I just wanted to give a quick update. Part of my plan to help raise funds and awareness for humanitarian causes entailed me seeking monetary donations while I trained for my first triathlon on a site I was planning to call triforhumanity.com. Unfortunately, I re-injured a torn medial meniscus over the weekend so my plans are on hold for the moment. The organization I planned to direct all donated monies toward was Darfur Peace and Development. If people are interested I suggest they check out their website at http://www.dpado.org/home.php as they are a terrific organization. Also, I just wanted to thank your readers who personally contacted me and offered to assist. I feel horrible that my injury has sidetracked me for the time being and placed my plans on hold but I am going to try and sustain some momentum. If anyone in your reader sphere is currently working on any humanitarian work and would like my assistance please feel free to email me at mark_w_Hayward[at]yahoo.com. Mark Greetings Leo ~

Not sure if people are still getting the comments on this post but I just wanted to give a quick update.

Part of my plan to help raise funds and awareness for humanitarian causes entailed me seeking monetary donations while I trained for my first triathlon on a site I was planning to call triforhumanity.com. Unfortunately, I re-injured a torn medial meniscus over the weekend so my plans are on hold for the moment.

The organization I planned to direct all donated monies toward was Darfur Peace and Development. If people are interested I suggest they check out their website at http://www.dpado.org/home.php as they are a terrific organization.

Also, I just wanted to thank your readers who personally contacted me and offered to assist. I feel horrible that my injury has sidetracked me for the time being and placed my plans on hold but I am going to try and sustain some momentum. If anyone in your reader sphere is currently working on any humanitarian work and would like my assistance please feel free to email me at mark_w_Hayward[at]yahoo.com.

Mark

]]> By: Dot Hage http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-17173 Dot Hage Mon, 05 Nov 2007 14:48:10 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-17173 My first way to move ahead when I'm faced with a lot of negative thoughts is to ask myself, "Who in my family used to talk like this?" I often find that these negative messages were imposed on me at a very early age by a family member, and they pop up unbidden years later. Identifying the source of the negativity helps me to move beyond it. Second, I tell myself, "It's okay to fail." Hope this helps. My first way to move ahead when I’m faced with a lot of negative thoughts is to ask myself, “Who in my family used to talk like this?” I often find that these negative messages were imposed on me at a very early age by a family member, and they pop up unbidden years later. Identifying the source of the negativity helps me to move beyond it.

Second, I tell myself, “It’s okay to fail.”

Hope this helps.

]]> By: Brendan http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16829 Brendan Fri, 02 Nov 2007 11:14:02 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16829 Hi, In a zen approach you could have a site that lists ten simple, clear worthwhile causes (water pump for village x, new school roof for school y) that are achievable in a realistic amount of time. Let people donate if they want and have another page for updates of completed projects. A three page website humanitarian organisation. A simple effective way to do good. Whatever way you decide to approach your project if you need any technical help let me know. Regards Brendan Hi,
In a zen approach you could have a site that lists ten simple, clear worthwhile causes (water pump for village x, new school roof for school y) that are achievable in a realistic amount of time. Let people donate if they want and have another page for updates of completed projects. A three page website humanitarian organisation. A simple effective way to do good.

Whatever way you decide to approach your project if you need any technical help let me know.

Regards
Brendan

]]> By: Henriette http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16820 Henriette Fri, 02 Nov 2007 07:26:13 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16820 How WONDERFUL! The internet loves you! Good luck with the project! Karma-greetings from Henriette How WONDERFUL! The internet loves you! Good luck with the project!
Karma-greetings from
Henriette

]]> By: Mark http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16805 Mark Fri, 02 Nov 2007 00:17:18 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16805 Because of this post I have had a wonderful ZenHabits reader email me and say that he would be willing to assist with the online user functionality. Additionally, I do not know if it was ZenHabits karma, but yesterday I ran into a friend who formerly worked for Human Rights Watch and she said that she would be willing to assist and advise on the establishment of a 501(c)3 organization. So, thank you all for your comments and offers of assistance. p.s. when we reach launch stage (if Leo allows) I will let the ZenHabits community know. Because of this post I have had a wonderful ZenHabits reader email me and say that he would be willing to assist with the online user functionality.

Additionally, I do not know if it was ZenHabits karma, but yesterday I ran into a friend who formerly worked for Human Rights Watch and she said that she would be willing to assist and advise on the establishment of a 501(c)3 organization. So, thank you all for your comments and offers of assistance.

p.s. when we reach launch stage (if Leo allows) I will let the ZenHabits community know.

]]> By: Brad http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16762 Brad Thu, 01 Nov 2007 17:31:11 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16762 I think the biggest issue with the negative self-talk is that it's cyclical. I've found that if I simply change the thought into a question, I'm at least able to understand why I'm thinking a certain way. This typically helps move me forward on whatever project I'm working on. 1. I need someone to help with programming the online end user functionality. Why do you need someone? What specifically do you need help with? How are you going to find someone to help? Write the questions down. Then figure out what you need to do to answer them. Best of luck! Cheers, Brad I think the biggest issue with the negative self-talk is that it’s cyclical. I’ve found that if I simply change the thought into a question, I’m at least able to understand why I’m thinking a certain way. This typically helps move me forward on whatever project I’m working on.

1. I need someone to help with programming the online end user functionality.

Why do you need someone? What specifically do you need help with? How are you going to find someone to help?

Write the questions down. Then figure out what you need to do to answer them.

Best of luck!

Cheers,
Brad

]]> By: Daiko http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16751 Daiko Thu, 01 Nov 2007 15:32:49 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/10/removing-negative-thought-tips-to-overcome-and-step-outside-of-your-comfort-zone/#comment-16751 Negative thoughts can be countered with a change of focus. Here's something I've started doing to combat negative thoughts: <b>1. Stop fixating on specific end results. </b> Every morning I make a list of three things that would be good to accomplish today. Often these are very small and achievable. Contrary to some advice I've seen, my aim is to accomplish these easily. On days that are filled with big time consuming obligations, I make these mini goals extremely small so they will fit into the day. Of course, if one or all of these help me work toward a larger goal (like Mark's goal of starting a non-profit) that's OK, but I don't put any restrictions on what these are. One of yesterday's goals was to enjoy Halloween with my kids! <b>2. Start reviewing positives from the day. </b> At the end of the day I sit down to think of at least 5 positive things that happened that day. I usually end up with 10 to 15, and in most cases the start is easy: I can list the achievement of my 3 morning mini-goals. I started this plan just over a week ago in response to Leo's September article on how to create a habit. So far it has worked amazingly well at reducing my negative thoughts, and has seen me through one of the toughest weeks I've had in years (my water heater filled the basement with water, and we've spent all our spare time clearing the basement, getting the boiler fixed, arranging for a dumpster, and filling it. There could be a lot of negatives in a week like this, but the daily review of positives has helped me see my successes rather than dwell on the things the basement has prevented me from doing. ___________________________ Wishing you a prosperous future Daiko Negative thoughts can be countered with a change of focus. Here’s something I’ve started doing to combat negative thoughts:

1. Stop fixating on specific end results.

Every morning I make a list of three things that would be good to accomplish today. Often these are very small and achievable. Contrary to some advice I’ve seen, my aim is to accomplish these easily.

On days that are filled with big time consuming obligations, I make these mini goals extremely small so they will fit into the day. Of course, if one or all of these help me work toward a larger goal (like Mark’s goal of starting a non-profit) that’s OK, but I don’t put any restrictions on what these are. One of yesterday’s goals was to enjoy Halloween with my kids!

2. Start reviewing positives from the day.

At the end of the day I sit down to think of at least 5 positive things that happened that day. I usually end up with 10 to 15, and in most cases the start is easy: I can list the achievement of my 3 morning mini-goals.

I started this plan just over a week ago in response to Leo’s September article on how to create a habit. So far it has worked amazingly well at reducing my negative thoughts, and has seen me through one of the toughest weeks I’ve had in years (my water heater filled the basement with water, and we’ve spent all our spare time clearing the basement, getting the boiler fixed, arranging for a dumpster, and filling it. There could be a lot of negatives in a week like this, but the daily review of positives has helped me see my successes rather than dwell on the things the basement has prevented me from doing.
___________________________
Wishing you a prosperous future
Daiko

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