Comments on: 5 Out-of-the-Box Ways to Connect with your Teen, Tween and Young Kids http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/ Simple Productivity Sun, 07 Mar 2010 05:06:07 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Resources and Articles for Parents of Kids | Radical Parenting http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-63947 Resources and Articles for Parents of Kids | Radical Parenting Sun, 22 Mar 2009 16:02:56 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-63947 [...] 5 Out-of-the-Box Ways to Connect with your Teen, Tween and Young Kids A guest post for Zen Habits on different kinds of activities to bond with your family. [...] [...] 5 Out-of-the-Box Ways to Connect with your Teen, Tween and Young Kids A guest post for Zen Habits on different kinds of activities to bond with your family. [...]

]]> By: Gather Around the Dinner Table!!!! « Girl Talk Blog http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-44431 Gather Around the Dinner Table!!!! « Girl Talk Blog Thu, 21 Aug 2008 13:59:53 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-44431 [...] Bonding with your parents and other siblings isn’t such a bad idea. There are ways to have fun with your family while sharing meals. Try getting together to play a game or discussing a topic [...] [...] Bonding with your parents and other siblings isn’t such a bad idea. There are ways to have fun with your family while sharing meals. Try getting together to play a game or discussing a topic [...]

]]> By: Wait 4 Your Mate Abstinence Education in DuPage County, IL http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-33509 Wait 4 Your Mate Abstinence Education in DuPage County, IL Wed, 16 Apr 2008 14:40:54 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-33509 [...] out this post from Vanessa Van Petten, author of Your [...] [...] out this post from Vanessa Van Petten, author of Your [...]

]]> By: charlotte http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20860 charlotte Tue, 11 Dec 2007 16:18:57 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20860 Great post. I work with stepfamilies, and especially then it is vital wo stay connected with your kids. I am for sure going to use these tips for my own family and in my coaching. Well done. Great post. I work with stepfamilies, and especially then it is vital wo stay connected with your kids. I am for sure going to use these tips for my own family and in my coaching. Well done.

]]> By: Rock the World Blog http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20838 Rock the World Blog Tue, 11 Dec 2007 09:55:47 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20838 [...] websurfing I found this great article by Vanessa Van Petten who is a young entrepreneur and expert on [...] [...] websurfing I found this great article by Vanessa Van Petten who is a young entrepreneur and expert on [...]

]]> By: The Parents Zone http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20737 The Parents Zone Mon, 10 Dec 2007 07:22:17 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20737 I liked this one..Tap in to your Local because it is very important to know our kids like. Parenting a teenager needs patience, encouragement for independent thoughts and a close relation and communication with the teen. I liked this one..Tap in to your Local because it is very important to know our kids like. Parenting a teenager needs patience, encouragement for independent thoughts and a close relation and communication with the teen.

]]> By: Jon A http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20675 Jon A Sun, 09 Dec 2007 08:39:20 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20675 Great suggestions. I'd modify the 'rate your day' activity a tiny bit, however. I used to work as a residential counselor in a group home and we used it at our dinner table. I found the 'good thing--bad thing' formula tended to end the person's sharing on a low note and emphasized the negative of the day rather than the positive. This was especially bad since these kids had never really learned to let go when bad things happened. We turned the formula around to 'bad thing--good thing.' It made a huge difference in that it allowed them to end on an up note rather than a down note. Great suggestions.

I’d modify the ‘rate your day’ activity a tiny bit, however. I used to work as a residential counselor in a group home and we used it at our dinner table. I found the ‘good thing–bad thing’ formula tended to end the person’s sharing on a low note and emphasized the negative of the day rather than the positive. This was especially bad since these kids had never really learned to let go when bad things happened.

We turned the formula around to ‘bad thing–good thing.’ It made a huge difference in that it allowed them to end on an up note rather than a down note.

]]> By: links for 2007-12-09 | The TDog's Blog http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20671 links for 2007-12-09 | The TDog's Blog Sun, 09 Dec 2007 03:28:44 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20671 [...] 5 Out-of-the-Box Ways to Connect with your Teen, Tween and Young Kids | Zen Habits This was the main question in a study conducted by CASA (National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse) called “The Importance of Family Dinners.” This study was conducted to find out what causes children to do drugs as teenagers and young adults. (tags: parenting kids family children fun activities lifehacks drugs tips) [...] [...] 5 Out-of-the-Box Ways to Connect with your Teen, Tween and Young Kids | Zen Habits This was the main question in a study conducted by CASA (National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse) called “The Importance of Family Dinners.” This study was conducted to find out what causes children to do drugs as teenagers and young adults. (tags: parenting kids family children fun activities lifehacks drugs tips) [...]

]]> By: Laocoon http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20630 Laocoon Sat, 08 Dec 2007 13:16:32 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20630 Teens try drugs for a lot of reasons -- for me, it was a combination of the thrill of tweaking my nose at various authorities, the allure of a mind-bending experience, the desire to bond with my friends and seem "cooler," an expression of my alienation from most of my peers and adult society, and a relatively passive way to "act out" against my family's high expectations for me. For all these reasons and probably more, I tried pot when I was 15, and kept doing it. Now I'm an Ivy League student with a GPA over 3.0, a nicotine addiction, and substance abuse issues with both alcohol and marijuana. Want your kid to be successful? Sure, bonding with them helps. The next step is to passively build a deep feeling in them that your happiness (and self-esteem if you want to be really devious) rests on their success - if your bond is sufficient, they will ruin themselves to please you. Want your kid to be happy? Tough titties. Nobody is always happy. Want your kid to be themselves? Now that's a goal that's both realistic and worth pursuing. Ambition for ambition's sake isn't healthy. Integrity and earnest engagement naturally lead to success, happiness, and strong interpersonal bonds, without so many messy bits. Teens try drugs for a lot of reasons — for me, it was a combination of the thrill of tweaking my nose at various authorities, the allure of a mind-bending experience, the desire to bond with my friends and seem “cooler,” an expression of my alienation from most of my peers and adult society, and a relatively passive way to “act out” against my family’s high expectations for me. For all these reasons and probably more, I tried pot when I was 15, and kept doing it. Now I’m an Ivy League student with a GPA over 3.0, a nicotine addiction, and substance abuse issues with both alcohol and marijuana. Want your kid to be successful? Sure, bonding with them helps. The next step is to passively build a deep feeling in them that your happiness (and self-esteem if you want to be really devious) rests on their success – if your bond is sufficient, they will ruin themselves to please you. Want your kid to be happy? Tough titties. Nobody is always happy. Want your kid to be themselves? Now that’s a goal that’s both realistic and worth pursuing. Ambition for ambition’s sake isn’t healthy. Integrity and earnest engagement naturally lead to success, happiness, and strong interpersonal bonds, without so many messy bits.

]]> By: The Cafeteria Swap - How to Make Your Kid’s Lunch ‘Untradeable’ | Today with Vanessa Van Petten http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20597 The Cafeteria Swap - How to Make Your Kid’s Lunch ‘Untradeable’ | Today with Vanessa Van Petten Fri, 07 Dec 2007 22:03:16 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/2007/12/5-out-of-the-box-ways-to-connect-with-your-teen-tween-and-young-kids/#comment-20597 [...] 5 Out-of-the-Box Ways to Connect with your Teen, Tween and Young Kids A guest post for Zen Habits on different kinds of activities to bond with your family. [...] [...] 5 Out-of-the-Box Ways to Connect with your Teen, Tween and Young Kids A guest post for Zen Habits on different kinds of activities to bond with your family. [...]

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