Photo courtesy of bonimo Notes on Life: Mantras, Small Things, Lists, and Such
As I’m cranking out the chapters this week, my post-writing time has been limited. Still, I’m addicted to writing stuff for you guys, so I thought it would be fun to share some random thoughts I’ve been having that probably don’t merit full-length posts.
Thanks again for your patience as I focus on my book writing — I’ve written nearly six chapters this week! I have all of you to thank for it — your encouragement and understanding has been unlimited and surpassed only by your stunning attractiveness.
On Mantras
As I was running the other day, I was thinking about mantras, and how I’ve used them with some success in different situations. As silly as you may feel by repeating a mantra, I think they have great use — they ingrain an idea in your head and serve as a reminder of something important.
To give you an example: I’m running my second marathon this weekend (as you may recall), and the biggest concern I have is not my physical fitness, but a mental one — I tend to run too fast because I get caught up in the excitement of a race, or get competitive with the other runners around me. If I do that in a 10K, that’s OK, because it helps push me to a personal best. But if I do that in a marathon, I will run out of gas before the end and will have a hard time finishing.
So I’ve created a mantra to tell myself during this marathon, to help me stay away from trying to keep up with other runners: “Forget Them. Run Your Pace.” And I know my pace, if I’m able to block out the other runners, and if I do that, I’ll have a nice, relaxed, fun marathon. So I plan to repeat my mantra every time I feel myself getting caught up in the race.
I’ve used other mantras to great success. Last year, 2007, I had only one goal — to use my blog and freelance writing to liberate myself from my day job. My mantra for the entire year: “Liberate Yourself”. I repeated that every day, and almost every action I did was somehow aligned with that mantra. It worked. I’m now a full-time blogger, thanks to the mantra, and thanks of course to all of you.
Another mantra I’ve been using recently is a quote by Thich Naht Hanh that I’ve used in a recent post: “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” This mantra helps me to slow down and relax anytime in my daily life that I begin to feel rushed and begin to lose my focus on the present. It also helps me smile more, which is nicer for the people around me and gives me a good feeling as well.
Do you think mantras could work for you? Or have you used them in the past?
On Small Things
In the shower this morning I was thinking about small things (no naughty jokes please). More specifically, about how one of the secrets to life is learning to appreciate the beauty in small things.
When I was younger, I had lots of ambitions — I wanted to do great things in life. And while I think that striving to do great things is an admirable thing, as I’ve gotten older I’ve found that there’s much more power in going inward rather than outward — there’s much more greatness if you pay attention to small details than in looking at huge vistas.
“What the heck are you talking about, Leo?” you wisely ask. I mean that while it can be very satisfying to achieve great goals and create great things, there is so much more in stopping to smell the flowers, in enjoying giving your three-year-old a bath, in finding heart-rendering beauty in a single falling cherry blossom, in sharing a quiet moment with your wife, in feeling the coolness of a chilled plum in your mouth.
It’s these tiny little things that really matter.
On Lists
I’ve drawn criticism from some readers (and a couple of top bloggers who will remain unnamed) for writing so many list posts on Zen Habits. And I can see validity in that criticism: it can seem overdone if I do too many lists, and seems as if I’m just trying to get popular on social bookmarking sites.
I won’t deny that I get some satisfaction if you guys enjoy one of my posts enough to Digg it or bookmark it on del.icio.us or Stumble it … it’s almost a validation of my writing. But I don’t often write specifically for that purpose — my main purpose is to share things I’ve learned with you guys and to be as useful as humanly possible.
So why do I write so many list posts? Simply put: it’s how I think, and has been since I was a teen-ager. I’ve always made lists, from to-do lists to pro/con lists to lists of favorite songs and movies. When I argue or explain something, I do it in lists. I see bullet points in my head. I number everything.
I can’t change how I think, and I write like I think, so that’s probably going to be the main format of my posts for years to come. I’ve found that many people like lists because it’s easy to scan them for the main points — longer essays are harder to scan, and in these days of information overload, people read blog posts by scanning most of the time. They want information, and fast — and list posts are useful in that regard, for good or bad.
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Comments (134)
Axus Says:
March 27th, 2008, 20:58 pm
Moving man just moving.
MamaBird/SurelyYouNest Says:
March 27th, 2008, 21:00 pm
I was just talking about a mantra I have for when I get furious and want to rip someone else’s face off. When I was younger, I’d think “That person hurt me, how much can I hurt them back? What is my best comeback?” A wise friend taught me to think instead, “What outcome do I want from this situation?” Now instead of doling out shortsighted and possibly satisfying nastiness I am much better about holding my breath. Another related mantra from my step-mother — Would you rather be right or be happy?
Leo Says:
March 27th, 2008, 21:08 pm
@MamaBird: Great comment … another thing to consider is that ripping someone’s face off is very difficult these days, now that they don’t make Velcro-attached faces, so in the long run it would be a lot more work to rip a face off than it would be to, say, take some deep breaths and laugh it off. :)
Naveed Says:
March 27th, 2008, 21:24 pm
hi there this mantra thing is new for me but seems to be quite interesting its like an alarm which constantly alarm you for your daily life things and keeps you on the track :)
Jeffrey Says:
March 27th, 2008, 21:53 pm
I love your list. :)
Amanda Himelein Says:
March 27th, 2008, 21:54 pm
My mantra recently has been “This isn’t helping.” I have a tendency to brood over offenses - every time someone cuts me off in traffic or ignores me (since I work at the mall, that happens a lot!) or does anything to piss me off, I can spend DAYS thinking about how mean they are and the comebacks I should have said and what to do if I see them again.
Does this make my life better? Not even a little bit. It makes me miserable and angry all the time.
So when I find myself doing that, I tell myself, “This isn’t helping.”
Corey - Simple Marriage Project Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:00 pm
I love mantras, my favorite being “smile, breathe, go slowly” (thanks to one of your previous posts) as well as “no worries.” It helps me keep perspective throughout the day.
pavs Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:04 pm
Leo I have been planning to quit my day job with the help of my blog, and your post has been a great inspiration to me. Thank you!!
Keep doing what you do best! And Good Luck on your marathon!
I live In NY, and I hope to run my first marathon this year, I have start doing osme research about it.
Marisa Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:08 pm
It’s amazing how much of a difference a mantra can make. When I was upset about something, I used to say to myself (over and over) “it doesn’t matter.”
I wasn’t consciously using it as a mantra, but during a discussion with my husband, I pointed out that I was feeling very very small - like he didn’t care about me or my opinions. He wanted me to articulate what specific thing made me feel that way, and I realized that it wasn’t him - it was my “anti-mantra.” I stopped saying that (replacing it with “I am loved”) and it made a tremendous difference in my relationships.
I feel kind of lame admitting how much of a difference it made (… and that I was so unconsciously negative for a long time).
Also - the lists are good! I am a list-maker, too - don’t let the criticism get you down :-)
Mark - Creative Journey Cafe Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:08 pm
Regarding Mantras, Marc Allen’s book, “The Type-Z Guide to Success” suggests writing affirmations for your goals, and beginning them like so:
“In an easy and relaxed manner, in a healthy and positive way, I am…(fill in your goal here.)”
and he adds, whenever it feels right, you can add, “in it’s own perfect time, for the highest good of all.”
And yes, lists are good. ;)
River Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:21 pm
“Life is not about the number of breaths you take, but the moments that take your breath away” … I don’t know who to attribute that quote to, but it has stayed in my mind ever since I read it on a small sign…….
Thanks for being there, Leo! Your posts are always thought provoking. :)
The Daily Minder Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:24 pm
Another great post Leo.
Mantras are important because all mind changes come about from repetition. We cannot become better thinkers unless we engage in the proper behavior over and over again.
Think of the buddhist monk meditating everyday.
The Tibetan word for “meditate” is “gom” which actually means “to familiarize”.
An important distiction. Good luck with your book!
The Daily Minder
Tom Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:25 pm
Good luck with the book, and truthfully I’d rather you take a bit of a break then try and crank out a few posts when your heart isn’t in it, or your mind is elsewhere.
Honestly, I rather liked this post. I like the list posts too, but I’d say try varying it up with short mish-mash posts. This was, in ways, 3 mini-articles, and I think that worked well, a kind of odds and ends that was interesting to read.
On mantras…whatever you believe about the universe or spirituality, I’ve been trying the idea of manifesting lately, where you think about things you want or already have and express gratitude for them, thinking positively about them. I think this can easily be twisted to be just a materialistic thing, like, “I am so glad I drive a Ferrari,” but I’ve been using it more for things like “I am so grateful for my awesome job,” or “I am so grateful for my wonderful body,” and lately, “I am so grateful for my fantastic mind.” I’m finding that, even if you ignore the spiritual implications, just thinking about how grateful I am for the things I have now (I’m not sure I’m the biggest fan of my job, body, or mind, but really, they’re all nothing to complain about) has really helped me, even in the last couple days.
Anyway, thanks for sharing your thoughts! And I hope the book will be available in Canada! I’d buy the eBooks, but, well, honestly, I like to have a physical copy of things. :P
Mark Warnock Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:31 pm
I really like your list format. Enables me to quickly scan it and dip into the parts that resonate with me. I’ve emulated your pattern a bit on my own site, seminarysurvivalguide.com, because I think it’s user friendly and time saving.
I’m sure purist writer types get all atwitter about these things… but not me. Keep up the great work.
Tom Stine Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:35 pm
Do your lists, Leo. I can relate. My friends always used to bust my a$ because I would always include a list or reasons in an conversation: “Number 1, I think the sushi here is good, number 2, the waitress smiles a lot….” They flow from a well ordered mind. Or slightly dis-ordered in my case. Be well…..
Tom | Spirituality, Consciousness & The Journey of Awakening
Boston Lady Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:38 pm
When I get depressed about a sad story about a child or animal or person being abused, mistreated, tortured, etc., I have found it helpful to repeat to myself, “I will not let the devil deter me from my mission.” I don’t mean the devil in the religious literal sense, but I could not come up with a better term for people or situations (like hurricane Katrina) who do horrible things to other people. My mission is to be a good person, an attentive and happy mother to my son, etc. If I hear about these horrific acts, and stories that seem so often to be in the news, it is easy to sink into moodiness and depression and have it feel like “what’s the point when there’s so much pain in the world anyway.” If after I’ve done what I can (like make a donation to an organization that helps the situation) and from that point there is nothing I can do to help, I repeat my “devil” mantra to help me focus on what I can do to be happy and good. By attributing these senseless and terrible acts to an “evil” force like a “devil”, I can let them go more easily and get on with living a productive and happier life. Please don’t judge me for this. I am only offering this out there to share with anyone else who might find themselves in despair over the terrible things we see happening, but are powerless to do anything about. Some things in life we do have the power to change. Others we don’t. This if for the times that we don’t.
Tad Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:40 pm
Leo,
I really enjoy your list writings. It is very refreshing to read those. When I was playing baseball in college, I always had mantras that allowed me to relax because when I tried to hard, I would tense up. They work great in a lot of aspects in life. Good luck in your marathon. Please let us know how you do.
pavs Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:47 pm
Leo How about some pictures from your marathon. it would be nice :)
Marelisa Says:
March 27th, 2008, 22:55 pm
Mantras are great for interrupting self-talk that is not in your best interest (as soon as you notice yourself having a conversation in your head about what you should have said to the jerk who took the parking space you were slowly backing into, begin to recite your mantra). They’re also great for slowing your mind chatter in general (positive thoughts such as love, gratitude, and compassion are slow; negative thoughts such as anger, fear, and anxiety are fast).
I read that “Rama” is the mantra Gandhi used (it’s the name of the Lord that comes from a word meaning joy or to rejoice); I use this mantra and it really helps.
I liked this potpurri post, Leo.
Brip Blap Says:
March 27th, 2008, 23:02 pm
Funny you mention the lists. I always grumble and say “another list?” every time you publish one and then it ends up being starred in my Reader almost every time. Keep the lists up - there’s a REASON they get Stumbled, Digg’d, etc.
Good luck in the marathon - I got off my running schedule but I still hope to do one soon, too.
Jason Crane Says:
March 27th, 2008, 23:03 pm
As a radio announcer, one trick I learned early on was a “visual mantra.” A radio guru I studied with advised putting up a sign in the booth with a word or two that would trigger some behavioral change each time I looked at the sign.
In my case, I put up a piece of paper with the word SLOW in big letters. It was right in my line of sight, and every time I looked up to talk on the mic, I’d be reminded to speak more slowly than is my normal inclination. Over time, this habit became so ingrained that I took the sign down, but I’ve recommended that same thing to many other radio friends.
Love your site!
Albert @ Headspace (http://thoughtsintime.co.za/) Says:
March 27th, 2008, 23:14 pm
I have noticed that mantras work even when I forget to use them!
I was once preparing for a 8 hour Mountain Bike race on a 5-mile track. The challenge was to do as many laps as possible in the alotted time.
A few days before the time I was thinking about the race. I realized that it was too long an event to really race against other participants. The way to do it, would be to approach it as a solo ride, and to do whatever necessary to ride are far as possible in the 8 hours.
I wrote all these thoughts down in my diary, but completely forgot about them on race day.
On rereading it a few days later, I was amazed to see that this was exactly how I rode the race.
So it seems that these thoughts/intention did their work “automatically”.
Thanks for your beautiful thoughts Leo
Albert @ Headspace
http://thoughtsintime.co.za
Phil Says:
March 27th, 2008, 23:19 pm
Mantras are the small things that are worth listing. How’s that for a synthesis of your uplifting post?
I don’t think you should worry about how many lists you have in your posts–making a list is an act of kindness toward your readers. And if they help give you some fame & juice, so what? There’s no sin in that–all great writers deserve the attention & that’s what blogs are for.
I learned a mantra from Naht Hahn for sitting meditations & when I stick to my routine I’m able to use it during my active day:
breath in, breath out;
deep, slow;
calm, ease;
smile, release;
present moment, wonderful moment.
It’s a great little habit for bringing mindfulness to the life that rushes by us and I’m glad posts like yours remind me of what we’re supposed to be doing with our lives.
Thanks for taking the time out of your business to post!
Jeff - ScienceSays.net Says:
March 27th, 2008, 23:23 pm
It’s funny to hear people telling you to tone the lists down when people are always telling me to make more of them in life!
I can’t speak about lists in blogging or social bookmarking, but I know two things: 1) they make large quantities of content (something you have) very accessible, even at a glance, and 2) Learning to write lists is quite literally changing my life by letting me release myself from all the things I carry around in my head all day.
Keep ‘em coming, I say
Iris M. Gross Says:
March 27th, 2008, 23:29 pm
Oh, Leo.
Don’t you just love it when people try to tell you what to write in your own blog?! Listen, if you want every post to be a list, it’s your prerogative, and nobody has the right to control your content! Now, I need a mantra, because reading about these posters who would dare tell you what to write has me steamed! They can write their own blogs if they don’t like yours! I suppose it hits a nerve because I’ve had people tell me what I should and should not talk about on my own website, and I’ve had to tell a few people off because of it.
I’ve got a list of my own:
1) Write what you want on your blog, and don’t give a Fosbury Flop who doesn’t like it.
2) I myself, love your writing, as-is. Keep it up.
3) You have the right to a “substandard” post or two, and whatever that standard may be, let it be YOURS. If some readers can’t handle that, too bad.
4) I really need that mantra now! The good part is, I feel much better now after writing 1-3! :-)
Good luck with the training, Leo!
jean Says:
March 27th, 2008, 23:51 pm
Leo,
Once again your authentic humility speaks greatness - even concerning the small stuff.
Your post is good food for thought.
Thanks,
Jean
ps: fellow “list-maker” here
Rose Garden Says:
March 28th, 2008, 0:20 am
Best wishes for your marathon event, Leo. If this week has been a “slow” blog week for you, I haven’t noticed… Obviously you’ve got a real knack for productivity!
I enjoy your lists, being a dedicated list-maker myself, but your essays are what really show your soul and inspire me.
As a mantra, I like the Yoda quote you used recently: “Try not. Do, or no not.”
Namaste.
Rose Garden Says:
March 28th, 2008, 0:22 am
Yoda-quote typo correction:
“Try not. Do or do not.”
Adam Says:
March 28th, 2008, 0:36 am
Lists are amazing. Please never stop writing them.
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Vered Says:
March 28th, 2008, 0:47 am
My favorite mantra: “you can do this”.
I say it to myself when I ski. I look down a steep slope, breathe, tell myself “you can do this” and start skiing. It makes a huge difference.
Angie Poole Says:
March 28th, 2008, 0:52 am
Know what? We all have a song to sing and a beat to dance to–and some folks just don’t like the way we look while we’re doing either one. Forget them.
Thanks very much.
Just this morning on my 1-1/2 hour commute to work I was alternating between David Allen’s GTD, Larry Winget’s Shut Up, Stop Whining and Get a Life, Joyce Meyer, the Emergent Podcast and I had a Damascus revelation.
How I relate to God (or Higher Power, to be PC), myself, and others depends totally on how I relate to this life as I know it and want it to change.
Therefore, how I organize, classify, believe, react, and behave have a direct impact on how I travel through this life.
Cliche–life is short.
Short of divine intervention, nobody else can decide what my best course of action is.
And that’s my new starting point.
Adam King Says:
March 28th, 2008, 1:05 am
“Liberate yourself.” WOW! What a simple but ever so powerful saying! May I use it for myself? I too am pursuing the path of full time freedom from the “day” job. Thank you. Great post
Adam
Eugene (Editor, Varsity Blah) Says:
March 28th, 2008, 1:26 am
I love mantras and borrowed mine from Anthony Robbins in Get the Edge. During yoga, it’s “My body is relaxed, my mind is at peace” and while running, it’s “Everyday and in every way, I’m getting stronger and stronger.” They really help!
AmberAZ Says:
March 28th, 2008, 1:34 am
Great post, Leo! I think mantras can be very helpful. I’ve had a few different mantras depending on the circumstances and challenges in my life at certain times. I think one underlying theme for me has always been a mantra of restraint. I guess “think, breathe” is another way of putting it. I tend to be rather Type A, which has served me well in many ways, but not always…and not always in my head! I also remind myself, “No whining!” whenever I start to feel like things aren’t going my way. I am really not a whiner on the outside, but I can whine in my head sometimes if I don’t check it.
Another angle…I truly believe you are what you surround yourself with…the people, the ideas, the images, the noise, the energy. They become your de facto mantra of sorts, so it’s important to choose wisely and weed out the ones that interfere with your purpose!
Richard Miller Says:
March 28th, 2008, 1:57 am
List away!
Life is a list to me.
1.
2.
3.
It’s how i write too. And it makes a long email orderly and easy to reference. ie: In their reply they can reply to my points by number.
Again, list away!
ali Says:
March 28th, 2008, 2:02 am
Readers don’t submit social networking bookmarks merely because of the format of the post. They bookmark posts that they enjoyed or found valuable. I really appreciate your list format! It is simple and to the point without sacrficing the appeal of your personal storytelling skills.
banji - LessonInLife.com Says:
March 28th, 2008, 2:46 am
I think one of the highest achievement of productivity is when you can balance the big and small thing in your life. Just like the rock in the jar philosophy.
But how can we distinguished which of the little things matter?
Hugo Says:
March 28th, 2008, 3:14 am
Here’s a way of using a mantra:
When I started my new job, I used a personal mantra as my logon password. It was something like: Work Hard and be the Best!
Having to type my password several times a day really motivated me in doing my best and get those tasks done.
PS: Great Blog! RSPCT!
Toto Says:
March 28th, 2008, 3:25 am
A flyaldy mantra that helps me a lot : “Progress, not perfection”. That is, try and do something, ven a little, even if it is not perfect the first time.
Zhongyi Says:
March 28th, 2008, 3:48 am
yeah i like lists too
they are easy coming off the head
Scramblejam Says:
March 28th, 2008, 4:05 am
Stick with the lists Leo!
As people have said, it’s the sign of a well-ordered mind! I wish I had your clarity of thought, I tend to jump into a list and end up warping-off into other subjects.
As for Mantras, I think they are incredibly powerful. I use them as much as you seem to, and find they have a wonderful way of sharpening focus or subtly re-aligning your behavior the way you want.
As you demonstrated with “Liberate Yourself” they can be very effective at maintaining focus upon a goal. I wrote a post on this subject back in January, as an alternative to the usual bevy of New Years Resolutions.
http://blog.scramblejam.com/2008/01/forget-resolutions-write-a-new-year-mantra/
Good luck with the book. If it’s anything like your eBooks it’s going to be something very special…
Angell Says:
March 28th, 2008, 4:19 am
on lists: Absolutely!!!
Couldn’t have said it better myself. I love lists, making them and reading them. So don’t stop. As you say, the perfect way to digest the information.
Honza Says:
March 28th, 2008, 4:59 am
Hi Leo,
I just want to say that I love lists too. But I do belive that you CAN change how you think (Isn’t personal development just about it?). So I’d suggest saying you can change. You like lists, though (And Zen Habits readers too, apparently) and so you don’t want to change, do you? “I can’t change how I think” Is, I think, a really bad excuse.
Anyway, good luck with the book and I’m looking forward to your next post.
Heimdall Says:
March 28th, 2008, 5:13 am
Hooray for lists! :-)
Do you know some “guidelines” for effective mantras? I believe, for instance, that one should avoid negations (don’t, not, …) and formulate the mantra in a positive “towards” (rather than “away from”) way. I’d like to hear about your views and further ideas. Thank you!
Leo, good luck for your marathon. And your book, of course. :-)
Mr. Guiyotinne Says:
March 28th, 2008, 5:19 am
For me is the classic “if it has solution why you worry, if it doesn´t have, why you worry”. Worked perfect all the time and help me relax in all situations.
But i kinda need little action now because i had a couple of boring years. Maybe “confrontation” will be my next! Great stories are based on confrontation, so…
stockdam Says:
March 28th, 2008, 6:34 am
I agree with noticing the small details. I often look at a “simple” sparrow then wonder how amazing it really is and then in my opinion it didn’t just happen by chance.
On Mantras……well not so much as a Mantra but a wake up call. If I ever feel down or under stress then I take my mind back to the kids I saw in the children’s hospital who had no hope left………then all my worries are insignificant.
Julia Says:
March 28th, 2008, 7:16 am
I never thought of it as a mantra but my mother always said “rise above it” when things got to be a bit much.
Will is GALVANIZD Says:
March 28th, 2008, 7:25 am
Thanks for the post.. It’s a great reminder of where I need to be. I’m just refocusing myself as of now.. I strayed away from my powerful morning routine for more than a week and I feel less than my usual fantastic.
Anyway, some mantra’s that have worked for me while running are:
“All I need is within me now”
“Everything I engaged in prospers me now”
- Will
Flint Says:
March 28th, 2008, 7:50 am
I have been meaning to start using a mantra, but as you said, it can feel a little strange repeating something to yourself :)
With regard to your list-based writing style, I really enjoy it. Between the clear list headings and your concise writing, your articles are easy to consume in a few minutes. I probably absorb WAY more from this format than if you had to just let everything flow into long paragraphs. Keep it up-and keep up the book progress :)
Daisy Says:
March 28th, 2008, 7:58 am
I like “I am calm and serene, an ocean of tranquility”. Sometimes it actually works… the more TaiChi I do the better it works… sure beats Wellbutrin.
Great posts, thank you as always!
James Says:
March 28th, 2008, 8:08 am
Another endorsement for the almighty list!
Lady Dark Says:
March 28th, 2008, 8:21 am
Hello, Leo!
First time writing, reader from some time. :)
Well, I really enjoy your lists! It’s clear, go straight to the point and I don’t get lost in long speeches…
Regarding the mantras, I’m trying to select some of them in order to control my hot headed style better. I like of “Smile, breathe and go slowly.” I must confess that sometimes my smile seems like the Wednesday smile in Addam’s Family movie, but I still try. =D
Alicia Says:
March 28th, 2008, 8:25 am
Hakuna Matata!
Lena Says:
March 28th, 2008, 8:45 am
I think a mantra is important to me. It changes at times for what ever situation I am dealing with. The one I use the most is simple and can be used by many. “Be Still”. I am referring to my mind, but at times the body can use this one. You will be surprised at all the things you discover around you if you still the mind and body. I like to read this
very much and it is part of my home page. Keep up the good work!
Sue Says:
March 28th, 2008, 8:50 am
When I ran my first and probably only marathon, I used mantras to train my mind during the hard, long runs. I exclusively use a couple of mantras to focus my mind in positive ways. As a Christian, I used “Jesus is my strength” as I timed it with my breath and steps. I think any mantra that is positive can be very helpful to be mindful in a particular situation. I find mindfullness akin to mediation, which is both a Zen and Christian concept.
Maria - Never the Same River Twice Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:15 am
@Leo - regarding your running mantra - I tense up a lot when I’m running, so I’ve started to use the mantra”
“Dig deep, stay loose.”
It reminds me to keep my face and body loose while giving my best effort.
I can time it to my cadence in a 4/4 count, so it works really well for me. You’re welcome to steal it if it helps.
Rachel Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:19 am
Glad you realized my “stunning attractiveness”. (I’ll take it where I can get it.)
Canaan Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:23 am
Good luck on your marathon this weekend!! I’m training for my 2nd half marathon in April. What a fulfillment they are!! I’m definitely going to try your mantra, while still enjoying the intensity and excitement of race day. I’m a new reader and really enjoy your blog.
Have fun!
Canaan Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:25 am
PS - I LOVE your lists. That’s one of things that made me really like this blog. I’m an event planner, so lists are my life. Keep up the lists!!
texafornia Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:33 am
Just get a heart rate monitor and make sure you keep your heart rate below a certain number for the first part of the race. It’s a sure-fire way to make sure you don’t go out too fast.
april Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:48 am
Mantra == Great in OH 8!~~~~
:)
Dave Bullock Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:48 am
Lists are awesome, keep them coming. I’ve incorporated one of your previous posts into my @before_bed action list that I read every night before I got to bed.
Lists have saved my life and I could not possibly be as productive as I am now without them. Thanks GTD!
Also my mantra is “anything is possible.” My dad told me that when I was a kid. I believed him. I still do.
=]
Linda Says:
March 28th, 2008, 9:50 am
I love the lists. They’re very user-friendly. Don’t change a thing!
skyz Says:
March 28th, 2008, 10:05 am
i use mantras (the classic ones) whenever my mind veers into negativity of any sort - i replace those thoughts with a mantra to erase them and stop them from taking root - i also use mantras when i am feeling especially fine as a way to enhance celebrate and express gratitude - now that i have simplified my outer life i have no distraction left from the greatest task / achievement: control of the mind ! as for the lists i make lists - i am a master list maker - i have even thought of starting to save my lists and publish them in a book ! (i got that idea from you leo:))
Jack Says:
March 28th, 2008, 10:05 am
nice one, I agree that Mantra’s really help. My own personal ones include:
Exercise, discipline, affection - from the dog whisperer
Pain is weakness leaving the body - for gym
The way is in training - musashi
cheers Leo
skyz Says:
March 28th, 2008, 10:09 am
on the humble splendors or the simple treasures in life: they are sufficient unto themselves - yes i have great goals and lavish dreams BUT if none bears fruit it matters not because each simple day is more than good enough !
Sergio Says:
March 28th, 2008, 10:15 am
Hi Leo, there are many great thoughts from Dan Millman´s Peaceful Warrior i like and one most of all as a mantra… “there is no starting, there is no stopping.. only doing”… from where i took my productivity mantra when need focus on work.. “there is only doing”
for relaxing and doing yoga i use just “remember to breath” but now i love the “smile, breath and go slowly” one :-)
and there is one more i use when meditating, as i follow christian meditation (not so different from other philosophies): its the ancient aramaic word “Maranatha” wich means “Come, Jesus” and help me to remember one teaching from the great master: if you want to gain your lilfe, you must loose it. That says to me i have to release myself from my ego and worries and be empty, present and totally open to life here and now and to learn new things everyday…
mmm talked to much :-P
ok man love your posts and ebooks
keep writting! keep sharing!
Mandiann Says:
March 28th, 2008, 10:17 am
I love your lists as well Leo! Don’t change a thing!
~
My mantra for the past few years has been.. “Don’t hold yourself as such a precious little prize” That may sound familiar to some Chuck Palahniuk fans (Invisible Monsters). However it works especially well for me since I am often easily offended and don’t take criticism very well. I try to remind myself that I am not perfect and that nobody is trying to hurt or sabotage me, they are just trying to help.
SpaceAgeSage Says:
March 28th, 2008, 13:03 pm
Louise Hay, author of You Can Heal Your Life, uses affirmations to break the negative habits and thoughts that limit people. “I am willing to change,” has been a big one for me recently. I also like:
“Miracles happen every day!”
“I choose to be peaceful and harmonious.”
“My thinking is peaceful, calm, and centered.”
(Wait! I think I am starting a list!)
The big thing for me is to frame the mantra or affirmation in the positive and avoid negatives because I have found the subconscious mind works better with concrete and positive statements.
Dot Says:
March 28th, 2008, 13:29 pm
I’m using Louise Hay affirmations (= mantras) as well. These are three she recommends for people suffering from fibromyalgia, and they do relax me:
I am relaxed and safe.
My mind is flexible and peaceul, and so is my body.
I am free of pain and all is well.
I also felt there were too many lists, but better lists than a disorganized mess!
Dot Says:
March 28th, 2008, 13:32 pm
PS on small things - The Indian movie Taste of a Cherry makes that point very well. At one point in the movie, the suicidal main character is asked if he wants to never again experience the taste of a cherry.
Adam Hyman Says:
March 28th, 2008, 13:52 pm
I like the part about Mantra’s. It sounds kinda spooky, but its worth a try.
Looby Says:
March 28th, 2008, 13:55 pm
My friend used to always say “wee buns” it’s an Irish expression meaning no bother or easy, but I like to say it when I come up against obstacles or problems, to remind me that in the grand scheme of things, they are not a big deal.
My other mantra for when I am stressed is the ever helpful “this too shall pass”.
Lisa Says:
March 28th, 2008, 14:22 pm
Firstly, well done for being so productive this week!
It was nice to see the reasons why you choose to write in a certain way. Personally, I have no problems with a list format:
1. They are easy to read, which means I can scan whilst working.
2. The content is not overlooked in them, so I don’t feel like it’s a cop-out (by the author or the reader)
3. Never underestimate the impact of white space.
4. Different styles work for different people and you’ll never please everyone. If you’re happy with your work and are writing with passion, you are providing a quality service (and are miles ahead in this particular game).
I think I’ve managed to make my point(s). Oh and I also agree with Pavs about a marathon photo on your site - now that’s motivating!
Wendi Kelly Says:
March 28th, 2008, 14:22 pm
When I ran my marathon, I had the lines from a song playing over and over in my head for my Mantra.
“Nobody’s gonna break my stride, nobody’s gonna slow me down..oh.no..I’ve got to keep on moving….”
It really came in handy after the 20th mile.
Also around 25 I added, “If I can do this, I can do anything”
and after I crossed the finish line, now, I say,” If I can run a marathon, I can do anything”
It reminds me what I am capable of when I make a goal and stick to it.
Good Luck this weekend Leo! I’ll be thinking of you!
Bob Says:
March 28th, 2008, 14:42 pm
Hi Leo. Long time reader, first time commentor.
I like your lists. I can take from them what i need straight away rather than pick through a large blog post.
Keep up the good work.
Margi Says:
March 28th, 2008, 15:08 pm
I love the idea of mantras and I also have “You Can Heal Your Life.” I’m working on several things.
As for your lists … a talented writer such as yourself can write lists or essays. Either one works. I really liked today’s “mish mash” of shorter thoughts.
Good luck this weekend! We all want to see photos!
Griffin Says:
March 28th, 2008, 15:39 pm
It’s funny that you receive criticism for the lists = this feature is probably my favorite aspect of Zen Habits…perhaps its how I think, too.
The information overload you mention is certainly true. Many of the small things - such as the aforementioned mantra “Smile, breathe, and go slowly” - are so valuable, yet so easily forgotten or lost in the convolution of day to day life. Thanks for the constant reminders.
That’s why I love Zen Habits.
Cheers.
Olivia Says:
March 28th, 2008, 15:43 pm
Leo - I live by mantras! The one that I use most often is to stop complaining/perpetuating negative thoughts: “If you’re not part of the solution, you’re a part of the problem.”
Kelly Says:
March 28th, 2008, 16:57 pm
Hi Leo…I get so much out of your writings AND out of the comments by so many thoughtful readers. I love all the mantras. Fantastic!
Good luck with your marathon!
:)
Kelly
Rebecca Says:
March 28th, 2008, 17:05 pm
I write everything in lists too. To-Do, How-To, bullet points, everything. Lists get me excited and inspired.
Don’t stop making those lists! It’s what I love most about this website. Easy to read!
Ritchie Says:
March 28th, 2008, 17:55 pm
Mantras keep us focused, ground us, give us something to hold on.
The little things? The little moments? They aren’t little.
- John Zabat-Zinn
Your lists are part of the reason I am here. You put things in a nutshell. It takes talent to bring something down to the fine points. Let the critics do it their way.
Mont Says:
March 28th, 2008, 17:57 pm
I, too, like your lists!
Jonathan Says:
March 28th, 2008, 18:39 pm
You’re first two thoughts created a nice serendipity with a book I just finished. I bought “A Secret Garden” on a whim at a book fair last month and then forgot about it until this week when I had to travel to a convention. I brought the book along and found it to be a quick and enjoyable read.
The whole book really boils down to two thoughts. Take time to notice the small things (the gradual greening of a near dead garden) and the power of positive thoughts. Young Colin (a sickly bedridden child) kept saying over and over “I will live” and let the “magic” strengthen him.
If you haven’t read it yet, here is a book to take to a park or somewhere else outdoors and share with the young ones before they get swept up in the hustle of life.
odette Says:
March 28th, 2008, 19:26 pm
I dont mind the lists… because that’ show I think too.
I love your style of writing.
I love what you write!
odette Says:
March 28th, 2008, 19:27 pm
… i meant.. that’s HOW I think
Linda Constanza Says:
March 28th, 2008, 19:27 pm
Leo: keep it up with the book, can’t wait for it to be ready, I am sure it will help us a lot.
I can relate to the lists, I’m like that too :)
Anita Says:
March 28th, 2008, 20:03 pm
Just stumbled on your blog and as a writer myself, I just want to congratulate you for writing so well. I’ve used a mantra for many years — in a language I don’t know, Sanskrit, and it’s a poem that takes a couple of minutes to get through. Still, it has the power to bring me back to the present, get me to sit up and pay attention! It’s known as the great dharani. Anyone else use it?
Eric Says:
March 28th, 2008, 20:07 pm
Lists and bullets are fine, there is no issue with the kind of format. But, honestly Leo, the best post you’ve written, imho, were not the lists.
Lists make great reminders and as you said, go straight to the point. But if slowing down, enjoying life one second at a time, then maybe rushing to the core of the point is not the point.
Keep the list, they’re good. Maybe it’s just the way of presenting them that seem odd. For exemple, if your last 10 posts are titled with Top Xs, Lists for xyz, wouldn’t it help to slow down, just a little bit ?
RogueTess Says:
March 28th, 2008, 23:34 pm
1. I like lists! More importantly, YOU like lists. Stay authentic.
2. More on Yoda: “Try not. Do or do not. There is no try.”
3. Variation on picking one’s battles: “You can be right … or you can be effective.”
4. A mantra from FlyLady.net: “You are not behind. Jump in where you are.”
Rick Says:
March 29th, 2008, 0:04 am
Great post, Leo. I recently discovered the power of mantras and positive thinking. I read recently of someone who lacked confidence reciting “I can be what I will to be” when they found themselves in an uncomfortable moment and their confidence waned. Mantras can be calming and they can also help to affirm something you wish to improve in yourself. It’s easy to hold a negative thought. It’s requires practice to recognize a negative thought and to banish it before it can do damage.
SC Says:
March 29th, 2008, 6:45 am
Hi Leo,
I am a very new reader and wanted to say thank you so much for your inspirational posts…you are definitely offering something great to all of us.
I have a mantra/list that I made up to remind me to accept change as a natural and necessary part of life…these are things I strive for daily:
C- connection with loved ones
H- health
A- awareness
N- nuturance
G- growth
E- energy
Thanks again Leo and good luck with your book and marathon!
Jacob Thomas Says:
March 29th, 2008, 7:44 am
Your blog inspires me. It helps me to take positively. I was wondering what to do after retirement. I can try what you are doing. Thanks for the insights.
Jonathan Says:
March 29th, 2008, 13:55 pm
I’m the same way about lists. I think in lists, so whenever I’m planning or typing something, it is often in a list form.
iucca Says:
March 29th, 2008, 15:08 pm
hi Leo, I have a question: can u sugest for me a mantra that can help me to finish this job that i started, but must be finished? I still have 6 more months to go, but feels like eternity. I would love a mantra that would work for me for the next 6 months.Thx
Will is GALVANIZD Says:
March 29th, 2008, 15:42 pm
Hey Leo (+ fellow Zen Habitants)!
I’m not sure if you check out comments after reaching a cetain number. I stumbled upon this over at Yahoo.com, but check this link out:
http://news.yahoo.com/s/nm/20080328/lf_nm/books_roget_dc;_ylt=Ap3×1QIrteVHyf4DvD.p3Vn2_sEF
“So what did Peter Mark Roget, the creator of Roget’s Thesaurus, do to handle all the pain, grief, sorrow, affliction, woe, bitterness, unhappiness and misery in a life that lasted over 90 years?…. He made lists.”
Seems like you can fend off depression and other mental illnesses with the simple use of Lists! ;)
blogrdoc Says:
March 29th, 2008, 15:57 pm
I’ve got a 4-in-1 nine word mantra:
run lean,
pack light,
stay hungry
and stay foolish
James Says:
March 29th, 2008, 17:02 pm
Good luck on the marathon Leo!
Bill Says:
March 29th, 2008, 20:40 pm
What a great way to stop a snowballing negative thought.
Siva Says:
March 29th, 2008, 21:15 pm
To Mr Thomas : How about teaching some classes in your neighbourhood or volunteering? It will make your life totally meaningful. Trust me i’ve tried it :). Service is the path to bliss :).
To the others and Leo : i thot the internets was about making cruel and pithy comments to people we don’t know. You guys are so nice! I’m most def coming here everyday :D! :)!
Please excuse my smileys, i just turned 21 on friday!
Shilpan | successsoul.com Says:
March 29th, 2008, 22:20 pm
Leo -
I love the focus on appreciating small things in life. When I wake up, I stretch my arms and touch ground to appreciate another day on this great earth. It starts my day with positive note.
Shilpan
Jamie Says:
March 30th, 2008, 0:22 am
I know what you mean about small things. When I was younger (I’m still pretty darn young), I couldn’t wait to get out of small-town, rural America. How can people waste their lives away doing something so small in such an insignificant place? I wondered. Now that I’ve seen a little bit more of the world–went off to the coast for four years–and returned, I have great respect for people who have spent their lives in this small, insignificant place; what they do may be small, but they do it well, and it has impact on those people who it immediately reaches. The influence they have is small but special.
At least, that’s what your shower-time thoughts evoked for me :-)
Timo Says:
March 30th, 2008, 1:11 am
I like lists too, simply because they structure a post. Only thing I don’t like (or find suspicious) about lists if they are artificially limited or expanded to some nice looking number, just to have 10 items, or the also popular 7 items, or 100 items etc. on the list. It always makes me wonder if the author had to bloat the list or - worse - leave out some of his thoughts, just to make it a nice round number of items.
Tiffany Says:
March 30th, 2008, 2:32 am
I use lists as a outline for papers or short stories I write. I love them because if I get distracted, (the dogs getting into something, or my baby needing something,) I can look at my list and find exactly where I was. I know what you mean about people wanting information too fast. E-mail in a way has corrupted society. A mantra that I use when I over think things is K.I.S.S.-keep it simple stupid. My dad said it alot when I was younger, and now it echoes in my mind.