Comments on: Five Ways to Cope When Your Child Returns to the Nest http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/ Simple Productivity Sun, 07 Mar 2010 05:06:07 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Marissa L http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-36154 Marissa L Tue, 20 May 2008 04:02:32 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-36154 ARE YOU KIDDING ME?? did you really just say being part of a family is a privilege. By NO means is that a privilege, every single person is entitled to a family, it is a basic human right. Who are you to tell anyone that they are "privileged" to be apart of your family. thats absolutely ridiculous. I was very interested in reading your article, but after coming across that line I was immediately turned off and appalled. Yes some people do not have families for various reasons but who are you to basically punish your daughter and use the fact that she has a great life against her in making her do things to please and thankyou for bringing her into this world, she did not ask to come to this earth. You are by far one of the most close minded person I have ever come across. If I were your daughter, I would not even come to your house for a day. Go ahead and keep enforcing all of your rules while she is at home, but just know that in those 10 months while she's away she will be doing everything you have instructed her not to do and more. ARE YOU KIDDING ME??

did you really just say being part of a family is a privilege.
By NO means is that a privilege, every single person is entitled to a family, it is a basic human right. Who are you to tell anyone that they are “privileged” to be apart of your family. thats absolutely ridiculous. I was very interested in reading your article, but after coming across that line I was immediately turned off and appalled. Yes some people do not have families for various reasons but who are you to basically punish your daughter and use the fact that she has a great life against her in making her do things to please and thankyou for bringing her into this world, she did not ask to come to this earth. You are by far one of the most close minded person I have ever come across. If I were your daughter, I would not even come to your house for a day. Go ahead and keep enforcing all of your rules while she is at home, but just know that in those 10 months while she’s away she will be doing everything you have instructed her not to do and more.

]]> By: lifehasnocompdays http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35674 lifehasnocompdays Wed, 14 May 2008 04:05:28 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35674 IN light of all the tragedies in life...think about China and the earthquake and all those kids that will never get to grow up,never go to college to come back home, your whole commentary on your daughters return is saddening . Im glad she is your daughter and not a strangers. Your child is coming home..i dread the thought of my 16yr old not coming home .Is this military camp ? if she cant break some basic rules in your house,where can she break them. Relax,let go and stop writing a procedure manual for your childs return. I hope your daughter or grandkids ever have to read this IN light of all the tragedies in life…think about China and the earthquake and all those kids that will never get to grow up,never go to college to come back home, your whole commentary on your daughters return is saddening .
Im glad she is your daughter and not a strangers.
Your child is coming home..i dread the thought of my 16yr old not coming home .Is this military camp ?
if she cant break some basic rules in your house,where can she break them.
Relax,let go and stop writing a procedure manual for your childs return.
I hope your daughter or grandkids ever have to read this

]]> By: lifehasnocompdays http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35673 lifehasnocompdays Wed, 14 May 2008 04:01:31 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35673 I I

]]> By: Leo http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35650 Leo Wed, 14 May 2008 00:19:24 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35650 @Jess: I'm sorry you're disappointed ... trust me, it has never been my intentions to use you readers as "pawns" and you're still as important to me as ever. I've just been a bit overwhelmed lately and haven't had much time for blog posts. However, I've decided to change that and re-prioritize, so you'll be seeing more of me. I appreciate your feedback, and especially the patience and understanding from all of you. You guys are what makes this blog what it is, and I hope you'll continue to participate in the coming months. :) @Jess: I’m sorry you’re disappointed … trust me, it has never been my intentions to use you readers as “pawns” and you’re still as important to me as ever. I’ve just been a bit overwhelmed lately and haven’t had much time for blog posts. However, I’ve decided to change that and re-prioritize, so you’ll be seeing more of me.

I appreciate your feedback, and especially the patience and understanding from all of you. You guys are what makes this blog what it is, and I hope you’ll continue to participate in the coming months. :)

]]> By: Kissie http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35644 Kissie Tue, 13 May 2008 20:57:18 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35644 If I were his daughter, i would definitely NOT come back. Even for a month. Even for a week. If I were his daughter, i would definitely NOT come back. Even for a month. Even for a week.

]]> By: sah http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35631 sah Tue, 13 May 2008 12:14:57 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35631 Be careful!! Your daughter might not return!! Be careful!!
Your daughter might not return!!

]]> By: Elizabeth http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35622 Elizabeth Tue, 13 May 2008 03:42:20 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35622 @Jimbo: Oh, haha. I knew it was an insect in it's beak, but it really looked like a nest. If it had been a nest, my comment would have applied. @Jimbo: Oh, haha. I knew it was an insect in it’s beak, but it really looked like a nest.

If it had been a nest, my comment would have applied.

]]> By: Tee-Jean Benoit http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35619 Tee-Jean Benoit Tue, 13 May 2008 00:17:03 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35619 Hey, y'all make big noise 'bout the marriage and kids who come back to you! I mind the song we sing about getting hitched up down on Bayou Petit' -- a good one for the dance, yes? Make you think twice, pass a good time before you take the plunge! O, parlez - nous a boire, Non pas de mariage, Toujours en regretons, Les jolis jours passes. S'it a ti maris, avec une jolie fille, Te tands de grand danger, mon cher, lls vont a la voler. O, parlez - nous a boire, Non pas de mariage, Toujours en regretons, Les jolis jours passes. S'it a ti maris, avec une vilaine fille, Te tands de grand danger, faudra, Que tu fais ta vie avec. O, parlez - nous a boire, Non pas de mariage, Toujours en regretons, Les jolis jours passes. S'it a ti maris, avec une fille bien fauvre, 
Te tands de grand danger, faudra, 
Travailler tout ta vie. O, parlez - nous a boire, Non pas de mariage, Toujours en regretons, Les jolis jours passes. S'it a ti maris, avec une fille qui a de quoi, Te tands de grand danger, faudra, Attraper des grandes rapproches. O, parlez - nous a boire, Non pas de mariage, Toujours en regretons, Les jolis jours passes. Parlez - moi, mon grand bon - a - rien, 
Tu ta gaspiller mon bien! 
Parlez - moi, mon grand bon - a - rien, 
Tu ta gaspiller mon bien! O, parlez - nous a boire, Non pas de mariage, Toujours en regretons, Les jolis jours passes. Hey, y’all make big noise ’bout the marriage and kids who come back to you! I mind the song we sing about getting hitched up down on Bayou Petit’ — a good one for the dance, yes? Make you think twice, pass a good time before you take the plunge!

O, parlez – nous a boire,
Non pas de mariage,
Toujours en regretons,
Les jolis jours passes.

S’it a ti maris, avec une jolie fille,
Te tands de grand danger, mon cher,
lls vont a la voler.

O, parlez – nous a boire,
Non pas de mariage,
Toujours en regretons,
Les jolis jours passes.

S’it a ti maris, avec une vilaine fille,
Te tands de grand danger, faudra,
Que tu fais ta vie avec.

O, parlez – nous a boire,
Non pas de mariage,
Toujours en regretons,
Les jolis jours passes.

S’it a ti maris, avec une fille bien fauvre, 
Te tands de grand danger, faudra, 
Travailler tout ta vie.

O, parlez – nous a boire,
Non pas de mariage,
Toujours en regretons,
Les jolis jours passes.

S’it a ti maris, avec une fille qui a de quoi,
Te tands de grand danger, faudra,
Attraper des grandes rapproches.

O, parlez – nous a boire,
Non pas de mariage,
Toujours en regretons,
Les jolis jours passes.

Parlez – moi, mon grand bon – a – rien, 
Tu ta gaspiller mon bien!

Parlez – moi, mon grand bon – a – rien, 
Tu ta gaspiller mon bien!

O, parlez – nous a boire,
Non pas de mariage,
Toujours en regretons,
Les jolis jours passes.

]]> By: SpaceAgeSage http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35618 SpaceAgeSage Mon, 12 May 2008 23:10:34 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35618 Interesting read, all of this. Most of us, I suppose, come to zenhabits to get a breath of fresh air in the form of insight and wisdom. I usually leave feeling more charged up and motivated. This post and the comments seemed more like the current bitterness in the US political battle. Parenting and politics can be explosive. As a martial arts instructor of many years, I have seen a large cross-section of parenting styles. Positive parenting leaves kids well-rounded, motivated, confident, and responsible. These type of young adults don't need heavy rules as they grow older because they understand the value of self-control. Negative parenting -- by neglect, over-protectiveness, or heavy-handed control -- leaves kids insecure, apt to act out, and unable to leave their victim personality behind. These young adults need boundaries, but those boundaries must be overwhelmingly presented in love, support and nurturing, with the goal always being to help the young adults find their own inner strength and wisdom so they can manage their emotions and learn healthy self-control. Interesting read, all of this. Most of us, I suppose, come to zenhabits to get a breath of fresh air in the form of insight and wisdom. I usually leave feeling more charged up and motivated. This post and the comments seemed more like the current bitterness in the US political battle. Parenting and politics can be explosive.

As a martial arts instructor of many years, I have seen a large cross-section of parenting styles. Positive parenting leaves kids well-rounded, motivated, confident, and responsible. These type of young adults don’t need heavy rules as they grow older because they understand the value of self-control. Negative parenting — by neglect, over-protectiveness, or heavy-handed control — leaves kids insecure, apt to act out, and unable to leave their victim personality behind. These young adults need boundaries, but those boundaries must be overwhelmingly presented in love, support and nurturing, with the goal always being to help the young adults find their own inner strength and wisdom so they can manage their emotions and learn healthy self-control.

]]> By: ramenrentresumes.com http://zenhabits.net/2008/05/five-ways-to-cope-when-your-child-returns-to-the-nest/#comment-35614 ramenrentresumes.com Mon, 12 May 2008 18:16:43 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=697#comment-35614 I recently released a book (click link above for more on that) about college grads. This is the generation of Boomerangers--and parents still need to be parents to kids who move home after school. How you do it is up to you, but grads moving back home is so common nowadays. I recently released a book (click link above for more on that) about college grads. This is the generation of Boomerangers–and parents still need to be parents to kids who move home after school. How you do it is up to you, but grads moving back home is so common nowadays.

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