‘The power behind “Yes” and “No” is when you state them truthfully. As a result, not only is your relationship to yourself better, so is your relationship to others.’

Your ‘relationship to yourself’? Why not just say what you actually mean? If you say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ untruthfully in a conversation, you’re just lying; there’s no higher importance.

‘The Pushme-Pullyu animal was always heading in the opposite direction at the same time, because he had one head on one end of his body and another head on the opposite end of his body. Are you a Pushme-Pullyu?’

Why make up a whole corny fake mythology to describe someone who is frequently indecisive? Banksy once said:

“The thing I hate the most about advertising is that it attracts all the bright, creative and ambitious young people, leaving us mainly with the slow and self-obsessed to become our artists.. Modern art is a disaster area. Never in the field of human history has so much been used by so many to say so little”

Such is true with your Buddhist pseudo-deep garbage. So much effort towards something few people will read and representing a simple idea that can probably be summed up in a sentence or two.

‘When you don’t take care of yourself and honor your own needs and boundaries your relationships with yourself and others suffer. It just doesn’t work in life to come from a place of people-pleasing. And that is typically the prime motivation for a Pushme-Pullyu person to say “Yes” when they need to say “No”.’

“Honor your needs and boundries”? “Take care of yourself”? This is abstract and blanketing to an infuriating degree. Just give examples, seriously; don’t use made-up animals to describe people’s lives. Let’s take a look at the last painful section:

‘You have choice. “Choice” is a privilege and to harness choice empowers us. You have the freedom to choose and the freedom to change your mind.

In terms of productivity, how you deal with this choice dictates whether or not you waste your time and the time of another person or people.

Once you “spend” your time or other people’s time, that time is gone, that time cannot be replaced.

So use your power of choice to say “Yes” or “No” when you mean it.’

This sounds like it came out of a Matrix movie. Red pill or blue pill. YOU MUST DECIDE YOUR DESTINY. This is life, not some fantasy novel. “to harness choice empowers us”? Seriously here? “Once you “spend” your time or other people’s time, that time is gone, that time cannot be replaced.” This is the only worthwhile sentence here (though why spend is in quotes, I cannot discern, other than that the writer thinks we’re 3 year olds); all you really needed was this sentence to express the purpose of this article, and everyone knows the nature of time anyway.

Also overuse of the word vacillating seems to jump out as though the author just learned the word and is over eager to use it.

Unlike most of the articles on this site I found this one to be unhelpful wordy fluff, writing to hit a target word count.

All I can say is I’m glad Mara is only a guest poster, I’d rather you didn’t invite her back.

p.s. Tell me what is my “vibration-rate” and how do I measure it? Does it involve crystals or chanting?

Thanks! I really needed this.

Frankly – sometimes you can lose out by being too decisive. But you always lose out by being indecisive. A slightly blunt view, I know!

If I find I’m wavering on an issue, I’ll try to set it aside and work on something else for a period of time (depending upon the urgency of the decision – typically an hour or two), and then force myself to commit to either yes – or no.