Comments on: How to Let Go of Hyperparenting and Learn to Relax With Your Kids http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/ Simple Productivity Sun, 07 Mar 2010 05:06:07 -0500 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Melissa http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81438 Melissa Sun, 23 Aug 2009 17:11:33 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81438 All of this is so tied up with the ability to take care of and take time for ourselves. In particular, when I am over-tired I find it incredibly different to parent in the way I want to. A good night's sleep goes a long way toward being the parent I want to be. And, of course, when we let go of hyper-parenting, there may be more opportunities to take time for ourselves! All of this is so tied up with the ability to take care of and take time for ourselves. In particular, when I am over-tired I find it incredibly different to parent in the way I want to. A good night’s sleep goes a long way toward being the parent I want to be. And, of course, when we let go of hyper-parenting, there may be more opportunities to take time for ourselves!

]]> By: Emily-Sarah http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81422 Emily-Sarah Sun, 23 Aug 2009 00:35:51 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81422 This is an excellent post that even good parents need to read as a reminder. We do put wild expectations on our children and also treat them/talk about them in such ways we'd never act toward our spouse or adults. Such as "Go kiss Uncle Bill/Aunt Martha bye so we can go home." Or, said to others in front of child, "Sorry! She's so cranky today. Someone obviously needs a nap." or "He's shy. Go on, Johnny, play with the other children [you've never seen before today]." So true: Treat children the way we want to be treated (which includes not plucking them up without warning when they're in the middle of playing -- how would we feel if suddenly out of the blue someone grabbed us mid-sentence from our computer?!). And yes, childhood is so short. ... So off I go to read a book to my precious preschooler! This is an excellent post that even good parents need to read as a reminder. We do put wild expectations on our children and also treat them/talk about them in such ways we’d never act toward our spouse or adults. Such as “Go kiss Uncle Bill/Aunt Martha bye so we can go home.” Or, said to others in front of child, “Sorry! She’s so cranky today. Someone obviously needs a nap.” or “He’s shy. Go on, Johnny, play with the other children [you've never seen before today].”

So true: Treat children the way we want to be treated (which includes not plucking them up without warning when they’re in the middle of playing — how would we feel if suddenly out of the blue someone grabbed us mid-sentence from our computer?!).

And yes, childhood is so short. … So off I go to read a book to my precious preschooler!

]]> By: rusirius http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81420 rusirius Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:52:31 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81420 One of the most inspiring blog posts I've read in quite some time. One of the most inspiring blog posts I’ve read in quite some time.

]]> By: Natasha http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81419 Natasha Sat, 22 Aug 2009 22:12:31 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81419 Love this post and your entire blog! I am another big fan. Love this post and your entire blog!
I am another big fan.

]]> By: Mindful Living Today » Blog Archive » Great Posts from the Past Week http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81404 Mindful Living Today » Blog Archive » Great Posts from the Past Week Sat, 22 Aug 2009 16:59:45 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81404 [...] How to Let Go of Hyperparenting and Learn to Relax With Your Kids [...] [...] How to Let Go of Hyperparenting and Learn to Relax With Your Kids [...]

]]> By: Nandini http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81386 Nandini Sat, 22 Aug 2009 06:40:19 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81386 this is so much needed .. thanks .. in our country .. where expectaions are so high from children..this is what we should follow this is so much needed .. thanks .. in our country .. where expectaions are so high from children..this is what we should follow

]]> By: Zengirl http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81379 Zengirl Sat, 22 Aug 2009 05:40:19 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81379 Being Parent is not easy now a days with so many buzz and new info, if only if we listened to our gut feelings and followed it. Good reminder for us to take it easy. Being Parent is not easy now a days with so many buzz and new info, if only if we listened to our gut feelings and followed it. Good reminder for us to take it easy.

]]> By: rbparent http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81376 rbparent Sat, 22 Aug 2009 04:47:54 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81376 Very nice article!!! I loved the part - "drop your expectations from the child". Apparently, this is the hardest part that parents have to understand and keep reminding themselves of. Very nice article!!! I loved the part – “drop your expectations from the child”. Apparently, this is the hardest part that parents have to understand and keep reminding themselves of.

]]> By: Jerris http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81368 Jerris Sat, 22 Aug 2009 03:21:20 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81368 What about a grown married son, who has decided to just ignore any phone messages he receives from his mother, as well as e-mail messages? I'm definately not a smothering, rude, obnoxious "mother in law", either. I live 3,000 miles away from them. My son and I used to be close....very close! We could kick back and have deep meaningful talks 'til the wee hours of the night, before he got a girlfriend, and married her. Is the old addage true: A daughter's a daughter all of her life,. A son's a son, 'til he takes him a wife.??? My son IS my only child, and got married at age 21. Now everything seems to revolve around her family. At least I used to get a random "love you mom, miss you" call, and now ZERO response to messages I leave, or e-mails I send, asking if I've somehow upset him or something??? No reply. Just ignoring. HELP! I may have lost my kid! It's breaking my heart! I thought he was at least my one "unconditional love" family member. I've been kicked outta his world, and it hurts. And worst of all, I have NO idea why!!!! :??? Thanx for a great topic and site. Any suggestions anyone? Floundering here.. What about a grown married son, who has decided to just ignore any phone messages he receives from his mother, as well as e-mail messages? I’m definately not a smothering, rude, obnoxious “mother in law”, either. I live 3,000 miles away from them. My son and I used to be close….very close! We could kick back and have deep meaningful talks ’til the wee hours of the night, before he got a girlfriend, and married her. Is the old addage true: A daughter’s a daughter all of her life,. A son’s a son, ’til he takes him a wife.??? My son IS my only child, and got married at age 21. Now everything seems to revolve around her family. At least I used to get a random “love you mom, miss you” call, and now ZERO response to messages I leave, or e-mails I send, asking if I’ve somehow upset him or something??? No reply. Just ignoring. HELP! I may have lost my kid! It’s breaking my heart! I thought he was at least my one “unconditional love” family member. I’ve been kicked outta his world, and it hurts. And worst of all, I have NO idea why!!!! :???
Thanx for a great topic and site. Any suggestions anyone? Floundering here..

]]> By: Karthik Kumar | Between a Breath http://zenhabits.net/2009/08/how-to-let-go-of-hyperparenting-and-learn-to-relax-with-your-kids/#comment-81366 Karthik Kumar | Between a Breath Sat, 22 Aug 2009 02:46:19 +0000 http://zenhabits.net/?p=4247#comment-81366 Wow, very nice post! I especially like #6... what we can do is set up the context so that we place children in a space where they can learn naturally. It's when we start trying to "impart" things to them in a structured way that we stifle their natural creativity that leads to a fun learning experience. Wow, very nice post! I especially like #6… what we can do is set up the context so that we place children in a space where they can learn naturally. It’s when we start trying to “impart” things to them in a structured way that we stifle their natural creativity that leads to a fun learning experience.

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