Post written by Leo Babauta. Follow me on Twitter.

How do you find amazing people who will make you happy, when you’re in a new city and don’t know anyone?

Recently reader Ting asked:

“I’ve been studying in a new city for about 6 months now, and I’m considering finding a job after my studies are over. I have this conflict, that I can’t seem to resolve in my heart.

I truly believe that the people around you, make your life worth living. I haven’t met the type of people I’d like to in this city, yet. And I’m afraid I won’t after I’ve committed to a job. I want to be able to be okay with myself, without having to depend on friends/people to be happy. I love this city. But I haven’t found the people that I love.

Should I try to stick it out, work towards separating happiness from friends? (Maybe I just haven’t been going the right places?) Or, should I go somewhere else and try something new?”

I was contemplating this reader’s question, trying to think of what I’ve done in my life that has worked. But then I thought, “I bet my readers can come up with many more answers, more intelligent answers, than I can.”

And so I’d like to leave this question to you, my wonderful and wise (and incredibly attractive) readers: How would you answer Ting’s question?

Personally, I’ve been lucky to have great family members — my wife Eva, my sisters, my parents, cousins, and more — who make me happy. But I know at school and then at work, I also met some amazing people — and for me it was a matter of trying to be friendly, helpful, grateful, encouraging, supportive, and fun, and with an attitude like that, you’ll find people who return the favor.

What are your thoughts?