self talk

Ok my goal is positive self talk. What kind of positive words or dialog do you talk to your self?

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Occasionally I talk myself through something but I generally just have a feeling of being happy with myself and a true belief in myself.

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ZippyGamer

	spookymind wrote:
	Ok my goal is positive self talk. What kind of positive words or dialog do you talk to your self?

One of the biggest determinants of all your performance is your self-esteem. saying "I like myself" a whole bunch of times - especially if you start smiling at yourself into a mirror - should definitely put you into a better, more resourceful mood.

Lol, almost forgot, I wrote an article on this.
Some of self-talk is what you say all the time, but also a lot is about changing negative self-talk to positive.
Check this out:
http://www.avimarcus.net/2008/07/your-thoughts-how-to-think-positively/

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great article, thank you

http://www.avimarcus.net/2008/07/your-thoughts-how-to-think-positively/

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Thanks, I try Smile

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I didn't read the article so I don't know if it mentioned this, but never use negative words.

Ex: I am not going to be scared of the surgery.

This uses both "not" and "scared". Something you don't want. Instead, think, "I will enjoy the surgery."

You probably won't notice the effects of it right away, but I've been doing it for a while and I have to say it has been paying off.

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Check it out sometime.

	will wrote:
	I didn't read the article so I don't know if it mentioned this, but never use negative words. Ex: I am not going to be scared of the surgery. This uses both "not" and "scared". Something you don't want. Instead, think, "I will enjoy the surgery." You probably won't notice the effects of it right away, but I've been doing it for a while and I have to say it has been paying off.

Right - go towards what you want. "I will face this courageously", etc.

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Like autosuggestion, repeatedly filling the mind with thoughts of calmness and composure, affirmations can work wonders on stress. Repeating positive words about yourself fills your mind with confident thoughts and releases tension.

Like making a presentation - 'I have nothing to lose. These people like me and I feel good and comfortable with them. They are not here to be critical of me. I'm concentrating on them, not on myself. I'm doing everything slowly, calmly, surely and am relaxed and confident. I'm in control.'

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Steve Pavlina thinks something else: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/01/beyond-self-delusional-positive-thinking/

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	dannielo wrote:
	Steve Pavlina thinks something else: http://www.stevepavlina.com/blog/2006/01/beyond-self-delusional-positive-thinking/

Positive self-talk and self-delusion (which is what Steve is talking about) are two different things. I think Steve is attacking the idea that we can do anything with enough positive affirmations. I think it's more accurate to say that a positive attitude will help you do anything, but it won't let you do anything.

Speaking of Steve Pavlina, I really like what he writes, but I always found it odd that his wife is a "psychic." I wonder if she can prove her abilities with an objective test, or is this just another case of self-delusion?

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ZippyGamer

We talk to ourselves all the time. A continual stream of chatter that only goes stills, like the cicada at random intervals (unless we meditate Smile

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So to use positive self-talk, one must first 'listen in' and figure out what is actually being said in there. If negative, some of Aaron Beck's thought stopping would probably be appropriate.

Then, since nature abhors a vaccuum, the insertion of positive for negative would be appropriate. The key, I think, is to check out the language to be sure it rings true for YOU. Anybody else's slogans, affirmations, etc. are just not going to fit. Keep it short. Keep it simple. Keep it empatic.

Good luck! G.

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In regards to positive self-talk, I am a huge fan of Take Back Your Brain, a site that teaches you to create "personal ad campaigns" that advertise your goals, habits, etc, to yourself.

While taking a walk today, I found myself naturally using the advice from this post to formulate positive self-talk, i.e. "I feel good BECAUSE I exercise daily." Apparently there's a body of research that suggests that the word "because" is more likely to motivate people to action. I can't complain; I walked my 30 minutes and felt great Smile

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Remember that the tonality and rhythm you use when speaking to yourself can have a big impact on the way you feel.

Imagine saying "I'm awesome" in a squeeky, shrill mock tone compared to saying it in a deep and commanding way. Some people have a very harsh and condescending tone to their internal dialogue. Consider folks who walk around with hunched shoulders and have trouble making eye contact -- if you were to peer inside their head, you're unlikely to find them speaking in a confident, commanding tonality.

Sometimes, the subject of your internal dialogue isn't as important as the form it takes. Even the most negative of words can be mollified if spoken in the proper tone. A talented comedian can make light work of a negative sentence. Tone matters!

Hi - this migt be a good source. A little academic maybe... http://www.whakate.com/lead-articles/putting-positive-thinking-to-work/

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I have used more and more self-talk over time, and it used to be mostly about affirmations and the like. Then, I ran across the work of ByronKatie (byronkatie.com.) and her approach is to ask questions -- to inquire into the thoughts that come into our minds.

I have found that my mind responds much better to some kind of reasoning than simple statements that it knows are just B.S. She has "4 questions and a turnaround" in her method, but I think anything that allows us to question the thoughts that pop into our minds would help, I think.

Smile

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