How to Simplify the Holidays

“A man is rich in proportion to the number of things which he can afford to let alone.”

― Henry David Thoreau, Walden
By Leo Babauta

Today, millions of people will be shopping, and the gift-shopping spree that is the holiday season will continue for a good month.

In addition to the shopping madness (where many people will be going deeper into debt in order to give others products they don’t really want) … there’s the craziness of holiday parties, traffic, travel, and general chaos and busyness. It’s enough to stress out most people.

What would happen if we decided to become radicals, and simplified the holidays? What would happen if we bucked the consumerist traditions, and got down to the essentials?

For some, the essentials are religious – the spirit of this season has nothing to do with shopping or all the crazy trappings of the holidays. For others, myself included, the essentials are spending time with loved ones. That’s all that matters, in my heart.

Once we remember the essentials, we can start to simplify. Here are some ideas for simplifying:

  1. Remember what’s essential. What’s most important to you about these holidays? Do you care deeply about your religion? Do you care most about spending time with your loved ones? Maybe certain traditions matter tremendously to you. Maybe you love the feeling of giving (of which, more below). Get clear on this, and the rest gets much easier.
  2. Limit shopping as much as possible. Don’t fall for the Black Friday or Cyber Monday madness or other holiday sales. It’s all designed to get us into a spending frenzy, and we fall for it every year. Instead, be much more intentional about your money and how you want to spend your life. See if you can go without shopping to the greatest extent possible – can you let it go? It’s fun (for some people), but it’s expensive (and you have better ways to spend your money) and it’s destructive to the environment, wasteful, and fills our lives with clutter.
  3. Talk to your family about alternatives. Can you do a gift exchange to limit gift buying? Can you make gifts or give experiences? Talk to them now, to avoid the awkwardness of some people buying gifts for everyone while others opt out. Talk to them about why you’re considering opting out of the consumerist madness, why you would like to avoid massive debt, why you want to avoid clutter and the manufacturing and resource-wasting nightmare that is Christmas shopping. Talk to them about what’s important to you as a family.
  4. Make a list of the traditions you love, and that you don’t love. We can let go of some holiday traditions, but we don’t have to toss out everything. What traditions do you love? Playing holiday songs, caroling, hanging stockings, making pie, decorating a Christmas tree (some of my favorites)? Maybe you really don’t like the turkey or wrapping presents, shopping, egg nog, wasting food, lying about the existence of Santa, or getting drunk (those are ones I don’t like btw). Make two lists – traditions you love, and ones you don’t.
  5. Start to let go of the non-essential. Talk to others about letting go of the traditions you don’t like. Say no to some invitations that don’t make you very excited (even if it makes you feel a bit guilty). Let go of so much shopping. Yes, letting go can feel painful at times, but think of the downsides of the things you’re letting go. Think of the simplicity you’re creating. And feel the relief of relaxing around letting go.
  6. Build a simple holiday around what matters to you. What matters most to you and your loved ones? What would be simple and beautiful? Create that holiday. Let it be simple, with space to enjoy each other and the food and traditions you care about. Let it be a simple experience full of love, without all the complications. Envision it, and build it.
  7. Find the joy of giving in other ways. In the next section, I talk about how to enjoy the loveliness of giving without having to shop. I think this is so important, because we usually conflate spending with giving. They are not the same, and you can still find joy in giving without being an over-the-top consumer.
  8. Say no to the craziness to say yes to the essentials. All the craziness of the holidays that stress you out? Yeah, say no to all of that. All the obligations and parties you don’t really enjoy? Say no to those. That allows you to make room for the essentials that matter the most. Saying no allows you to say hell yes to the things you love deeply.

The Joy of Giving Without Buying

Let’s let go of the myth that you have to spend to give. Giving is a beautiful thing. Here are some ways to give without getting into debt.

In the end, we can simplify by letting go of what stresses us out, and keeping what we truly love. That applies to all areas of our lives, but it’s especially needed during the craziness of the holidays.

Join Me for a Free Webinar: Designing for Wonder

Speaking of the joy of giving, I’m honored to offer a free masterclass webinar next week (Tues. Nov. 27) with my friend Jeffrey Davis of Tracking Wonder.

The masterclass webinar is called Designing for Wonder: Interventions to Transform Your Work & Life, and will offer you daily interventions and reframes so you can deepen your daily purpose, boost your creativity, and finesse discomfort with more grace

Jeffrey and I will offer you the tools and guidance to show you how to:

You’ll have a chance to ask us questions as we help you reframe your ways of working and living to increase possibility, purpose, creativity, and resilience.

The masterclass will be held on November 27, 2018 – 1pm PT | 2pm MT | 3pm CT | 4pm ET … and you can sign up for it for free here:

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