How to Not Believe Your Ultra-Persuasive Rationalizations

By Leo Babauta

I’ve come to realize that smart people are very good at creating super persuasive arguments for why the shouldn’t do the thing they’re fearing doing.

This past week, I’ve worked with half a dozen intelligent people who have convinced themselves to give in to their resistance, over and over.

They’re persuasive, convincing people, and when it comes to convincing themselves, they are really good at it, as there isn’t even anyone to argue back.

So they convince themselves, in the moment of fear and resistance, not to do the thing they told themselves yesterday they want to do. This results in not sticking to their word to themselves, not doing the habits they want, not doing the important, meaningful work they’ve always wanted to do.

So how do we overcome our own persuasive rationalizations? I’ve learned a few things working with these wonderful and intelligent people. Let me share them with you.

Start from Your Best Mindset

Mike Tyson had a famous phrase that went something like, “Everybody has a plan until they’re punched in the face.” While I don’t love the violence of it, I do love the recognition that our best plans go out the window when we’re faced with fear.

So we have to train in how we respond to the fear, so that we don’t collapse.

But before we do that, it’s important to start by thinking about this when you’re in your best mindset. Or at least a pretty good one. Not when you’re in the middle of the resistance, because at that point, you’ll just rationalize your way out of it.

Your best mindset is when you can look at the situation objectively and decide what you really want to do. Not what you want to do when faced with the book writing or sales call you’re resisting. Not what you want to do when it’s cold or you’re in bed and the alarm clock’s gone off in darkness. But what you want to do when you are calm and not feeling the resistance.

What do you want? Why do you care about that? What would it mean for you and others? How important is this for you? Write down the answers to this, to show yourself when you’re facing the fear. When fear punches you in the face and you want to run.

Come Up with Your Counterarguments

Now that you know what you want and why … come up with your counterpunches.

Start to list the reasons you give yourself not to do the thing you fear. You can add to this list later, when you see them in the wild. But for now, list the ones you can remember.

Now write down a good counterargument for each one. Each rationalization will be at least partly true, which is why they’re powerful. So you have to overcome it with even more truth.

For example:

These are just a few common ones, you can probably think of a few of your own right now. If not, watch what you tell yourself the next time you try to put off your important things, and write down the rationalization.

What would convince you not to believe your rationalization? Write it down, and tell it to yourself at the moment of difficulty.

Train in the Moment of Resistance

It’s one thing to write things down and have counterarguments ready for yourself … but what will you do when fear punches you in the face?

This takes training. You need to intentionally practice in this, every day, so that you get better and better at overcoming the resistance and not collapsing when hit with fear.

The training is this, in a nutshell:

  1. Set a practice time for yourself, and commit to doing the training every day at that time.
  2. Set something for yourself to do in that practice time – something that will bring up some resistance. Set this the day before.
  3. Only do a small chunk of it – if you want to write a book, for example, only try to do 10-20 minutes of it (depending on how hard that is for you). Don’t make it crazy difficult at first.
  4. Notice what happens when the time comes to practice – what do you do? What rationalizations do you give yourself? What comforts do you turn towards? What complaints are there? Just notice, without judgment.
  5. Stay for a moment with the fear and resistance. Just be with it. You don’t need to run, just feel it for a moment. Maybe a couple moments. This is the training – not running.
  6. See if any of your counterarguments work. Remind yourself of why this is important.
  7. Put yourself in a place of love – how is doing this an act of love for yourself and others? How important is that love? Can you let yourself feel the love and compassion right now, for yourself and others? Let this move you.
  8. Try to get even one minute done. See if that’s possible. Maybe 10 seconds. It’s an opening. Tomorrow, get a little more done if possible, or at least the same amount.

Daily training will help you not need to run. The rationalizations will lose their power with time, because the fear won’t be as scary.

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